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Saturday, August 19, 2023

Relationships What they are ? Why they impact many aspects of life for many ? what is their importance in all realms?

Relationships What they are ? Why they impact many aspects of  life for  many ? what is their importance in all realms?

Every personal relationship gets polluted through spill over of perverted perspectives from the commercial world.

So, performance appraisal takes precedence over personal attributes; utility over understanding; submissiveness over synergy etc.

 Relationships must subsume differences and replace all ' versus' with 'and' creating a pleasantness which permits everything to permeate in a display of inhibition free accommodation, adjustments , minor compromises all out of love and understanding or at least to sustain a relationship in the interest​s​ of life of many others, that may hinge on sustenance of certain relationships.

Relationship require a strong dosage of humane reciprocation  .

Living with certain humane values at all times preferably with everyone is the best reciprocation we can offer to the other souls.

Relationship, morality a long write up some of which are repetitions of certain things I have written on earlier occasions in my blog posts.

As you say Murali it is in many cases obvious that mostly socially enforced morality is due to lack of opportunity or capacity or both.

However, though this happens to be obviously one among the many facts we cannot become oblivious to other facts by over generalizing.

There are various layers and lies in relationships.

Physical and material comforts together predominate mostly.

Everything and anything that feeds these needs therefore dominate most relationships at a fundamental level though they may not dominate the discourse in society.

They are like a foundation as after all, we are basically animals of a particular species.

Refinement comes with effort, constant cultured upbringing, conscious awareness and intention to become and be a refined and more humane human being followed by manifestation of concomitant emotions and actions and sometimes refined behavior is also manifested through pretension.

So, which layers of relationships get prioritised and when, decide the quality and durability of a relationship.

That’s why in any relationship starting from birth till death there are multiple factors and facets of compatibility with all its expectations and reciprocations and hardly any relationship can be always hundred percent [100%] perfect on various compatibilities.

Besides, like in any aspect of life’s evolutionary trends multiple considerations are involved and injected into every form of relationship with changing circumstances, contexts and situations.

Therefore, trying to confine any relationship within any label as sacred, religious, socially important etc do not hold water for those very reasons.

 However, all said and done real and strong relationships in realm of life, are not forged, framed or formed but they are founded on certain innately cherished impulses, common interests and inter related involvements and they need not necessarily have to be time bound –either until further notice or forever come what may.

The warranty of most relationships are based on certain positive values and feelings like unqualified  love or reciprocal treatment of kindness preferably manifested more frequently, besides trust, cooperation, comfort, compassion, humility, sharing and caring, willingness to adjust and to forgive , gratitude and so on.

But most marriages now, and I hold the society of elders guilty, have been reduced to pompous wedding rituals followed by either openly negotiated or tacitly agreed upon contractual obligations.

The fundamentals of relationship in addition to positive values enumerated earlier are sentiments of various hues, spontaneous affections, emotions, attractions (of any aspect) devoid of socially anointed taboos.

Honestly, if we touch our consciousness and have a conversation with it, then, we all may review our relationships to redefine, refine, sincerely rework or dump them.

Living involves myriad methods and dynamics as it passes through various situations and contexts.

RelationShip is one of the many ships that float or sail through in the ocean of life.

Various factors are important, impact and influence different relationships at different times.

Therefore , we need to understand the context, content, character and contribution of each and every relationship in proper perspective, rather than making over simplified or over general statements involving the word relationship.

                                                                                                                                                                       So,  we need to develop, design and deliver deftly a well balanced combination of these various dimensions and dynamics which decide lot of things concerning our life , mainly our relationships- i.e. how we relate with everyone else, our own self, everything else and all that exists  and lives outside us and crops up inside us.

I am against usage of terms loosely as well as following things ritualistically without inner involvement.

Life is after all not mere chronology of existence but a meaningful topology of relationships.

We cannot experience life based on past templates nor future projections but can experience life as a live activity at present in the present situation or context.

However, we can imbue our attitude in dealing with any context with some time- tested humane values like compassion, love, forgiveness, humility, sharing and caring.

These will ensure that even during spur of the movement, spontaneous or short tempered reactions, the hurt or negative impact will be less or at least less violent.

Along with these attitudes we must also ensure that every word and deed are- out of concern - calculated, measured, nuanced and calibrated to the context but taking into consideration all the sensitivities and sensibilities of all involved.

Therefore, words and deeds have to be also   nice and diplomatically delivered.

Most importantly egocentric psychological interpretation of actions must be avoided because it will see adjustments or cooperation as compromise and so on.

Every relationship is a many faceted splendor and all the facets together contribute to the splendor, whether it is with persons, books, movies, any art, music, culture, tradition, gadgets, environment, vehicles or anything.

The splendor is revealed depending on what lights we use to see these facets.

The bright lights are good attitudes, adjustments, aesthetic appreciation, compromises, collaborations, co-operation, and contentment and so on.

The dim lights are confrontations, control and command mode behavior patterns, ego generated competing, manipulations, scheming, politicizing, hidden agenda, simmering discontent, lurking suspicions, ulterior motives, ingratitude and so on.

Every vibration of every action or reaction or situation is based on relationship i.e. how we relate to/with other persons and things and every relationship is based on reciprocation.

I feel in the ultimate analysis everything is about how we relate with others, with things, with ideologies, with various identities, with the whole environment etc that is going to determine our role and relevance in the world and in our own life. 

The poetry of life and relationship in general has some inherently important, interesting and inevitable refrain. They are broadly as given below and therefore during the course of this write up they may be repeated often:-

That everyone and everything is interconnected, inter related and interdependent in at least some aspects and with varying degrees of intensity.

 Everything must be evaluated based on contextual relevance and contribution to life as a whole [which implies the whole physical environment as well as psychological and social environment].

Every aspect of life has its own intrinsic and inherent attributes/merits which must be smoothly aligned with life and its myriad relationships through proper attitudes.


It is preferable to immerse any topic or subject matter, primarily and basically with its intrinsic elements/components/aspects/attributes intact, into a cauldron which has a mixture of all these- knowledge based analysis, limited perception based on frames of reference and scales of observation, skepticism , criticism, intellectual scrutiny, compassionate emotionalism, humane socialism, rational thinking, contextual relevance [ which includes too many components] , traditions, practical viability, psychological comfort, aesthetic sensitivity, scientific scrutiny etc and churn the cauldron without clinging on to any particular restrictive social, cultural or political or religious identity.

This process inevitably will bring out lot of outputs. We can exercise our freedom and sometimes select and choose some of the outputs. Sometimes the outputs will draw us.

Sometimes away from all or any of our intended searches and seeking, outside the circle of these known paradigms, almost tangentially serendipity will drag us to an oasis of serene clarity.

At all costs the intrinsic attributes must be the predominant factor so that whatever is thrown into the cauldron and however it is churned, the ultimate output must include those attributes so that evaluation is not distorted or desperately doctored to fit into any predefined and expected outcome.

So, what pans out ultimately depends on various factors and aspects some of which are explainable within the ken of logical and rational thinking, but some are beyond these.

We can also observe uneasily how the human intellect polished by a rare faculty [compared to other species] of conscious awareness, capacity to think, store the knowledge, retrieve it for reference etc, is mostly, unwilling to take the risk of accepting the uncertain; the intellectually undecipherable and the inexplicable outcomes, even if such acceptance is branded, extolled and promoted as virtues of humility or modesty.

All said and done life has to be enjoyed through living and relationships have to be experienced in the churning process of life. We cannot mask them with any mumbo- jumbo or avoid them through any other means, imaginations, dreams etc however well packaged or marketed or sanctified they may be.

What is happening to relationships now?

Unfortunately, to use the commercial jargon, there is a paradigm shift in viewing relationships by some people of the present generation.

They compartmentalize relationship into different categories. They categorize relationship on a graph as useful, usable, allowing to be used and proportionately their different relationships get disturbed, degraded and destroyed. The more and more they allow themselves to be used for something by someone then it can gradually lead to depression and can at times even become deadly.

They think if betrayal can benefit, why not give a kick to gratitude. They have no qualms about placing selfish personal comforts and gratifications over everything else.

That’s why relationships are researched with more emphasis on the prefixes and/or suffixes that are attached to them like marital relationship, professional relationship, family relationship, emotional relationship, intellectual relationship etc.  

These prefixes /suffixes indicate certain specific situations/contexts and certain elements /aspects/factors which predominate in a relationship. They do not define the totality of a relationship. 

For example in a professional relationship one may not deal only with purely professional /official matters one will also be concerned about the personal welfare or circumstances either sad or happy of one with whom one is professionally engaged. 

Similarly, by emotional relationship it does not mean just any particular emotion but also all other factors that form part of the relationship.

Relationships are not nets meant to get entangled but great networks of connectivity to catch completeness and gain from totality of everything because all are interconnected, interrelated and interdependent in at least some aspects and with varying degrees of intensity.

But all relationships irrespective of the prefixes and suffixes they carry are based on certain time tested universal principles and certain humane values, it is these values which are the many facets that give the shine to relationships.

Living with certain humane values in our day to day life is worthier than any other great achievement. We do not need any expertise or special qualification or sanctions to practice these values.

For example, sentiments of caring and sharing, if not towards all, at least towards people related to us and whom we come across in life is very important because the impact of such values and principles are too tangible, stark, and perhaps stinging at times.

Even when we are aware of all the components of relationships, we cannot either make collages or collations and deal with relationships but as mentioned earlier life carries on its constant churning process through various aspects and unfortunately we are aware of only some aspects because of our selective frames of references and all other limitations.

So we must strive to live by certain positive values that we may have inherited and/or acquired and also try our best to bequeath the same to our children.

Very often people take the route of blaming the circumstances as that becomes an easy excuse and say because of various sufferings, problems, frustrations, failures etc they could not lead a life with certain positive values.

Similarly, some people who become a little prosperous in their life either in power, pelf or position, they  let everything disappear under their super imposing ego which gets so inflated that they are clouded by a false sense of immortality to external things quiet oblivious of the mortal frame which houses such ego. 

What no one realizes is that we all are after all have certain inevitable limiting factors :- we have a mortal frame made of biochemical organisms which are bound to decay and die one day and even that like our birth is, in most cases, not chosen by us,  but happens all the same.

Reality is harsh and humbling in many ways. All of us always do what we can, what we want to and what we are destined to do. At times one or some of these things predominate over the rest. But irrespective of any of these three i.e. what we can, want to and destined to do, the platform from which we perform them are our inherent attributes and our attitudes.

Unless these two are tuned properly the frequency at which we may encounter life will be jarring and make us realize things the very harsh way.

So, always living with certain humane values preferably with everyone is the best reciprocation we can offer to the other souls.

Relationship is one of the many ships that float or sail through in the ocean of life.

Various factors are important, impact and influence different relationships at different times.

So, we need to understand the context, content, character and contribution of each relationship in proper perspective, rather than making over simplified or over general statements involving the word relationship.

What are they?  And why blossom into beautiful journeys? 

Why do they fail?

Why are they pleasing as well as puzzling?

Why are they a pleasure as well as a problem?

Why are they important in life?

Etymologically with various possibilities, it referred to some act of connecting and/or communicating, whether we take it from Anglo-French relacioum’ meaning ‘act of telling’ or Old French  relacion’ meaning ‘connection’  or from Latin relationem’ meaning ‘a bringing back’ or  ‘proposition’ or relatus’ meaning ‘person related by blood or marriage’.

From these basic meanings it has migrated magnificently broad enough to connote and include a very wide spectrum of connectivity starting from physical to metaphysical, psychological to social to spiritual etc.

So the word Relationship must not be confined to the arc of mating radar.

Life is never fulfilled with unfulfilled relationships within the family, with others in the society, with the environment, with the many sciences, subjects, systems that we come across which are useful to us, used by us or we are used by them and so on. So, the quality of life is the manifestation of the quality of the interplay of these various relationships.

Which major aspect of any relationship needs to be addressed?

In most cases it could be mere dissatisfaction arising due to unfulfilled expectations; or using wrong tools of evaluation; or being indifferent to vital or essential factors of a relationship; or using inappropriate approaches/tools to address specific issues. Or in many cases the adoption of an attitude of getting into judgmental mode and moving on justification journeys.

Relationships need not and mostly cannot refrain from having certain expectations. There is nothing wrong in expectations being an important factor or aspect of a relationship either.

Usual and normal expectations can be defined in very general outline as physical pleasure, sentimental reactions or self-pity seeking attitude, emotional joy, mental satisfaction, social status, even satisfying societal obligations, performing religious duties, fulfilling traditional rituals, respecting regional and cultural requirements, concern for environment, caring about health, civilized behaviour which means acknowledging facts, accepting variety, tolerating differences etc.

There are varying degrees or intensities of self-satisfaction that one can/ may get in one or many or all these areas.

But when expectations of some extraneous considerations, which are not intrinsically important, or form part of the intrinsic fibre or essence of a relationship, become the one and only issue that predominates a relationship over so many other factors that play or may also play a part in a relationship, or taken up as the only priority of a relationship, then, the relationship is either a tool to fulfil that particular consideration or priority, or at best a journey towards that destination. In such a scenario the relationship always carries with it an expiry date or valid till further notice factor and loses any significance by itself or at least gradually loses its charm.

 Nothing is eternal, including our life [which incidentally is the main point of reference to everything else]. But certain things leave an imprint for eternity by their significant value and valuable significance that they manifest and the meaning that they inject. Healthy relationships are such factors. This will be evident from people who come from families which were operating with unqualified and unconditional love.

 This is why some lives are considered great to be followed as examples, some events are considered important for the positive contributions that they have made to life in general. Such lives and events manifest vibes and vibrations which have a very positive impact or influence.

Every relationship is a many faceted splendours and all the facets together contribute to the splendour, whether it is with persons, books, movies, any art, music, culture, tradition, gadgets, environment, vehicles or anything.

 The splendour is revealed depending on what lights we use to see these facets. The bright lights are good attitudes, adjustments, aesthetic appreciation, compromises, collaborations, co-operation, contentment etc and the dark lights are confrontations, control and command mode behaviour patterns, ego generated competing, manipulations, scheming, politicizing, hidden agenda, simmering discontent, lurking suspicions, ulterior motives, ingratitude etc.

So in most of the circumstances most relationships with persons, issues, environment, things etc are impacted by the light we choose to use to see the splendor. Besides as mentioned at the beginning as per the etymology, relationship is and preferably determined by connectivity and not by any predetermined rule or role.

In addition, the splendor of relationships remain unseen due to ignoring inherent merits specific to the relationship or to the particular situation or issue or individual involved in the relationship, and again as in all other areas using wrong tools of evaluation etc. For example where feeling is involved addressing it or evaluating it with intellectual analysis; where physical pleasure is involved addressing it or evaluating it with social pressures; where intellectual decisions are to be made injecting emotionalism, where compassion is required dealing by whipping up passions etc.

 What we are doing in all these issues is as stupid as taking a remote control and pressing different movie channel buttons to watch a sports event that is being telecast in a sports channel and  sometimes even using  a wrong remote control like delving into comparisons, involving unconnected people or aspects etc 

I am against usage of terms loosely as well as following things ritualistically without inner involvement.

Most of us human beings are vulnerable to slogans, statements and scriptural justifications which block our original thinking, proper evaluation, and interpretation of  many things in proper perspective and contextual relevance.

 I feel in the ultimate analysis everything is about how we relate with others, with things, with ideologies, with various identities, with the whole environment etc that is going to determine our role and relevance in the world and in our own life. 


It is preferable to immerse any topic or subject matter, primarily and basically with its intrinsic elements/components/aspects/attributes intact, into a cauldron which has a mixture of all these- knowledge based analysis, limited perception based on frames of reference and scales of observation, scepticism , criticism, intellectual scrutiny, compassionate emotionalism, humane socialism, rational thinking, contextual relevance [ which includes too many components] , traditions, practical viability, psychological comfort, aesthetic sensitivity, scientific scrutiny etc and churn the cauldron without clinging on to any particular restrictive social, cultural or political or religious identity.


This process inevitably will bring out a lot of output. We can exercise our freedom and sometimes select and choose some of the outputs. Sometimes the outputs will draw us. Sometimes away from all or any of our intended searches and seeking, outside the circle of these known paradigms, almost tangentially serendipity will drag us to an oasis of serene clarity.


At all costs the intrinsic attributes must be the predominant factor so that whatever is thrown into the cauldron and however it is churned, the ultimate output must include those attributes so that evaluation is not distorted or desperately doctored to fit into any predefined and expected outcome.
So what pans out ultimately depends on various factors and aspects some of which are explainable within the ken of logical and rational thinking but some are beyond these.


We can also observe uneasily how the human intellect polished by a rare faculty [compared to other species] of conscious awareness, capacity to think, store the knowledge, retrieve it for reference etc, is mostly, unwilling to take the risk of accepting the uncertain; the intellectually undecipherable and the inexplicable outcomes, even if such acceptance is branded, extolled and promoted as virtues of humility or modesty.

 Some quotes carry the best filters to pass any topics through them.

“I have approximate answers and possible beliefs in different degrees of certainty about different things, but I’m not absolutely sure of anything"- Richard Feynman

 William James, “In the end nothing less than the whole of everything can be the truth of anything at all”.

Swami Chinmayananda,"The spirit of Advaita is not to keep away from anything, but to keep in tune with everything."

 Voltaire said, “Four thousand volumes of metaphysics will not teach us what the soul is”.

"We live in succession, in division, in parts, in particles.  Meantime within man is the soul of the whole: the wise silence, the universal beauty, to which every part and particle is equally related, the eternal ONE.  And this deep power in which we exist and whose beatitude is all accessible to us, is not only self-sufficing and perfect in every hour, but the act of seeing and the thing seen, the seer and the spectacle, the subject and the object, are one.  We see the world piece by piece, as the sun, the moon, the animal, the tree; but the whole, of which these are shining parts, is the soul."Excerpt from The Over-Soul, by Ralph Waldo Emerson, first published in 1841.

“Study the assumptions behind your actions. Then study the assumptions behind your assumptions.” 
― Idries Shah
Learning How to Learn: Psychology and Spirituality in the Sufi Way

“For in spite of language, in spite of intelligence and intuition and sympathy, one can never really communicate anything to anybody [I may add only through intellectual analysis/verbal communication].”― Aldous Huxley

Sometimes enough materials, loads and loads, will help one to get academically confused, if not clarified;

The ideology freaks resort to arriving at conclusions based on contrived and convoluted concepts justifying them with farfetched data, irrelevant surveys and attention grabbing statements. 

Human life, after all, is a very short journey in the ocean of totality of LIFE. 

Identities of all hues while they enable creating social groups at the same time enfeeble options for universal acceptance.

Writers, when they slide on the side of reason are 360 degree stroke makers, they  are able to seek and to see numerous possibilities that exist between, beneath and beyond ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ which ordinary mortals may not that easily  grab and give a name or label and in addition writers are not averse to churn by throwing those possibilities in the cauldron which may contain from several sources all sorts of thoughts, information and /or knowledge of /in various domains, imaginations, dreams, fantasies, intellect, conscious awareness, perception, tools of perception, logic, reason, evaluations, purpose of evaluations, tools of evaluations, understanding and application of understanding, social values, social interactions, individual and/or collective emotions/feelings, psychology, cultural contexts, ideological identities which influence that very thought process, imaginations, dreams, fantasies, scientifically established facts, intelligent questioning, attitudes, willingness and ability to understand and solve problems, bio-chemical components of human beings and /or some other species as well, application of  highest physical laws etc.

Writers realize at least, partially that reality is that  shifting priorities, drifting value systems, jilting relationships, wilting spirits seek only befitting systems and swift solutions and not suffocating taboos and traditions, rituals devoid of rational, sermons of socio-morals of ancient times which may enthuse automatic cognitive operations through appealing nicely worded socially applauded hyper philosophizing thoughts and opinions[passing of as collective wisdom] but will get exposed at the altar of existential anxieties which may expose how far removed they are from any contextual relevance.

Evolution, metamorphosis, change are the three important and inevitable dimensions of time.

Love and religion are relating, reconnecting and reuniting with real involvement 'how we relate' with others and by extension with higher spirits. Religion is derived from the two Latin words “re” and “ligare” which means “to reconnect”. We try to reconnect our feelings, emotions, expectations in joy with someone else known to us [which is called love] or some other unknown source [which is called religion]. Love etymologically refers to the manifestations like the Germanic word leubh- "to care, desire, and love" (cf. Latin lubet, later libet "pleases; “Sanskrit lubhyati "desires." So, the reality of religion and love is unity of human spirits, senses and sanity. Love and Religion are positive manifestations integrating human reasons, responses, reactions, reciprocations and reuniting and creating synergy synthesis and synderesis ultimately.

Scriptures, scientific discoveries and inventions, philosophical explanations, great thoughts, ideas, actions, events, works of art, culture, and traditions are all some of the revelations popping out of as parts of the evolutionary process of human understanding of life. But we must be aware that they are neither the whole of life nor can anyone well versed in any of these aspects claim to be possessing the keys to understand the whole of life nor are they even answers to all aspects of life that we know ofLife is lived from moment to moment.

Religion is understood better by synthesis than by analysisReligions grow better by syncretism than by antagonism. 

The beauty of life consists in the unknowns and the unending searches and research –the unending process of evolutionary trends in everything.

Growing up and growing out of certain things are natural process of evolutionary metamorphosis both biologically and psychologically.

Life is functionally a dynamic energy; visually a multi-faceted splendour; in reality a marvellous mystery which unfolds itself through each and every one of us at every moment. Therefore, life cannot be either generalized in any manner or simplified into any predefined categories.

Life continues to evolve in its dynamic energy every moment and constantly throws up challenges in varying degrees and intensities, in different dimensions and at unexpected intervals. Wisdom is to live in the present context and to practice certain time-tested values which have relevance in present context but with a global perspective to bequeath a liveable planet, a lovable society with lovely ecosystems and improved living conditions. Scott Atran, a respected Anthropologist called Religion as “belief in hope beyond reason”.

In evolutionary biology we find that all creations have shed the unnecessary parts or shrunk them for better survival; in evolutionary sociology too human race has shed too many models of social groups and narrowed down on a few that would be easier for global interaction; in languages too, from a few thousands languages that existed humanity has reduced the number to just a few hundred languages for easy communication leading to at least better verbal understanding.

Life is never fulfilled with unfulfilled relationships within the family, with others in the society, with the environment, with the many sciences, subjects, systems that we come across which are useful to us, used by us or we are used by them and so on. So, the quality of life is the manifestation of the quality of the inter play of these various relationships.

Everything has its relevance and appeal to different souls at various levels.

That's why we cannot deny or defy the importance of anything or anyone.

So, oversimplifications or sweeping generalizations must be avoided.

“Across planes of consciousness, we have to live with the paradox that opposite things can be simultaneously true.” ― Ram Dass.

We cannot analyse anything and everything through ideological fixations and subject them as well purely to satisfy socio- political justifications and surreptitiously insert undeserving persons as intellectuals.

We must also know that everything has its own inherent attributes, intrinsic values, internal mechanism, and logic for its existence besides, beyond, exclusive of and unmindful of human intellectual justifications, acceptance, acknowledgement, social approvals, political support  and therefore , it is purely absurd to extrapolate anything with specific ideological fixations.

A whole gamut of things and factors that go on to develop an intellect, many more to define one and a lot to acquire that label which enable to deliver the real universal wisdom. 

Human knowledge even with all the advantages of technological advancements enabled accessibility and availability hubris, still navigates in the orbit of finiteness.

Whatever they be and however well packaged they are, be they surveys,  statistics,  spread sheets all are meaningful abstractions and presentations of multiple facets and factors like randomness, measurable patterns, easily understandable classifications, blue prints or outlines or guide lines projecting or superimposing the trajectory of trends of real events, activities, actionable remedial measures of  PEOPLE who are involved or impacted by or responsible for such events or activities and circumstances which went on to create those factors or facets.  

“Scientists use whichever methods help them understand the world: drudge like tabulation of data, experimental derring-do, flights of theoretical fancy, elegant mathematical modelling, kludgy computer simulation, and sweeping verbal narrative" -karl popper.

"All the methods are pressed into the service of two ideals, and it is these ideals that advocates of science want to export to the rest of intellectual life. The first is that the world is 'Intelligible'. The phenomena we experience may be explained by the principles that are deeper than the phenomena themselves." “The second ideal is that we must allow the world to tell us whether our ideas about it are correct, i.e., consistency with empirical evidence". 

Vulnerabilities are unavoidable but leaving them unobserved, unattended, and unaddressed is bad. 

 "I was at the age when one felt like one needed to read everything, which prevented one from making contemplative stops"- Taleb.  

This happens to most of us. In a way it is good initially, more the merrier.  Then we end up getting lost with excess of fuzziness than real assimilation. 

The INSTINCT/IMPULSE to filter and be selective comes with prejudices and biases to NARROWING DOWN on only a few things. However, the ABILITY to do so, comes with enhanced matured way to choose and decide and end up CONSOLIDATING our radius of receptivity.

Sometimes, many other factors like time constraints and lack of resources limit our options.

I cannot resist quoting my favourite author here.  

“The ability to choose an action that best satisfies conflicting goals is not an add-on to intelligence that engineers might slap themselves in the forehead for forgetting to install! It IS intelligence"- Steven Pinker

 “Understanding does not obey Moore's Law: knowledge is acquired by formulating explanations and testing them against reality, not by running an algorithm faster and faster. Devouring the information in the Internet will not confer omniscience either: big data is still finite data, and the universe of knowledge is infinite" - Steven Pinker. He also writes, “if narratives without statistics are blind, statistics without narratives are empty". 

Summing up the whole thing I would like to add that life is injected into the spread sheets only when one SYNERGIZES them with underlying HUMANITARIAN WELFARE and long-term ENVIRONMENTAL IMPACT based on RATIONAL OUTLOOK and SCIENTIFIC APPROACH with CONTEXTUAL RELEVANCE and ensuring not to hurt the SENTIMENTS and VALUE THE SOCIO-CULTURAL SENSITIVITIES of the people involved. 

 Surveys,  statistics,  spreadsheets are meaningful abstractions and presentations of multiple facets and factors like randomness, measurable patterns, trajectory of trends and so on of real events, activities, actionable remedial measures of people who are involved or impacted by or responsible for such events or activities and circumstances which went on to create those factors or facets. 

Life is injected into the spreadsheet only when one synergizes with underlying human and environmental factors.

 “Everything changes as you move through three stages of awareness:

first, that beliefs are the result of conditions;
second, that beliefs are the cause of conditions;
and third, that beliefs are themselves conditions.”― Eric Micha'el Leventhal

 “All of us have our own inner fears, beliefs, and opinions​. These inner assumptions rule and govern our lives. A suggestion has no power in and of itself. Its power arises from the fact that you accept it mentally.”― Joseph Murphy, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind

 “We must realize that the subconscious mind is the law of action and always expresses what the conscious mind has impressed on it. What we regularly entertain in our mind creates a conception of self. What we conceive ourselves to be, we become.” Grace Speare.

 

 

 

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