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Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Sunday, July 13, 2014

Women’s Freedom and feminism

Women’s Freedom

What is freedom for feminism? Why is it delayed and discussed very often but never delivered?
Can it be achieved if it is approached like a macroeconomic project or do we require the attitudinal changes to be effected at micro level?

The freedom gets delayed very often due to the very way and the terminological / the doctrinal cages within which we discuss and debate the issue.

Again the mistake is reducing one gender of human beings as only physical objects and discussing everything around that premise but unfortunately that is and has been the trend from time immemorial.

The malady is not confined to only casting women in the mold of certain shapes, sizes and figures, the insult goes beyond merely physical it goes on to psychological, social, cultural, religious etc biases based on various factors many of which are justified as aspects of tradition, as if all other aspects of tradition, involving men are carried on intact.

The role of women has been required to be the same whereas that of men have changed and enjoyed all the privileges, sometimes at the cost of women, from the time men were, at least some, hunting tribes to now haunting rapists.


This does not mean that I am pandering to some ultra revolutionist ideas to score some brownie points But this also does not mean that we must forsake or forget or view negatively à la certain professional feminist groups questioning the importance given to certain biologically determined superior roles  that the feminine gender is blessed with [like being a mother and giving birth to another life] as if it is a limiting factor , on the contrary what a great joy and privilege it is, to be a mother.

Two dangerous approaches which will never allow larger sections of human beings the actual plight/progress preventing aspects of womanhood are: - one scripting sensational stuffs, adrenal provoking preaching or leftists’ one sided sloganeering with a selective/narrow hidden agenda/propaganda of finding faults or provoking a sense of perennial victim hood only with particular social/religious systems and two producing sickening status quo promoting far rightists’ traditionalism.

Both these approaches prevent us from taking notice of /being aware of how the whole society inflicts pain, indoctrinates its predefined identities on womanhood and curtails their freedom in many areas of activities, and, in addition, these approaches also prevent us from gradually rectifying the mistake at every micro level within each family by creating atmospheres to ensure enough freedom to women as very often to deny freedom to them men have very handy  existing literature, prejudices, traditions etc to justify the stand.

Constant ideological indoctrination has also erased self love from the hearts of many women.

So, through these write ups I have tried my level best to portray my observations, reactions [ of  appreciation and empathy towards women]  and disgust at social perceptions and treatment and how they impact the lives of women in general. Some of these have been published in some magazines long back.


and every woman must use this small booklet


Monday, February 10, 2014

Times of India’s role, Chetan bhagat, Empowerment and Women

Times of  India’s role, Chetan bhagat, Empowerment and Women

There are colloquial expressions either single word/phrase /idiom in every langue which express experiences so well that you cannot translate it in other languages  as they are without giving detailed explanations or some circumlocution to bring out the full or complete meaning. One such expression is Tamil is as transliterated ‘vettu perungaya dabba’ meaning ‘empty asafetida box[usually in olden days it used to be in paper boxes unlike the present day plastic one]. It refers to a box which when you open and kept in a room will give you the same impressions in terms of smell/odor/flavor/stink whatever you wish to call it as but when you really approach to take the box presuming that it contains asafetida you will be surprised to find that it has not even a dust /particle of asafetida totally devoid any content that you were expecting.


Two things in the past week happened like that one is the much hyped but unpaid and unfixed [unlike NDTV Burka Dutt] interview of Rahul Gandhi with Arnab Goswami and yesterday Chetan Bhagat’s article in Times Of India about that interview. While trying to ridicule Rahul Gandhi, this did a mess as he did not have either enough humor, even copied references or did not have enough guts and ended up writing about women wherein he mostly meant or tried to mean feminism or feminist liberation and their empowerment. The beauty is he did not do any justice to the two issues nor propose anything to the two namely  empowerment and feminism in alphabetical order much less connect the two in any way . As I got a chance to read the Sunday central page very late at night I thought I would request Times Of India not to promote authors because of their brand or at least do not insult by publishing it in the same page where such good writings/columns like those of M.J.Akbar appears.


Let me add Chetanji, do some home work because  you are given the privilege of writing narrative and descriptive article, unlike the mundane news reporting, it is a privilege because you can evaluate, explain, opinionate, quote examples of rural women empowerment [ from Gujarath for which the whole media seems to have an in built bias] etc. So when you are given a detailed  atlas just do not show the oceans that too without names but  try to learn the names of countries and in this case  try to give some original opinions so that even if you do not have the qualities of asafetida at least act as a substitute and not be an ‘empty asafetida [paper] box’.


For your benefit some years back Times Of India itself carried a series of wonderful articles from experts, scholars, successful people from various fields like Mr. A.J.Abdul kalam, Wipro Chairman Mr.Aziz Premji, Biocon chairman Ms.Muzumdar etc on empowerment. I am equally worried about  Times of India’s standards?


Here are two links for your benefit on those two topics, on which I have with my little knowledge, attempted to write something. In fact the one on empowerment was my response to the articles on empowerment by TOI and another my response to some article of feminist rights in Youth Ki Awaaz’


Friday, October 18, 2013

women

I have been writing similar stuff for the past almost two decades. 

But then social mores and traditions hardly change that easily, especially when it comes to matters concerning women and it is a global syndrome. It took a Nargis for the first time to ensure that even a woman’s name can be printed as heroine starring in movie posters. It has taken so many centuries for women in Ireland to get the right to abort just last year. I can go on quoting many more instances across the globe which will only increase the debates and dish out lot of verbal theories. 

What we need is initiatives first from women themselves to object to and avoid sponsoring such biased evaluations of women. Why should men first of all sit on judgment on women and pass dictates? Why have women never bothered to question this? Is there any species special status for males? And most importantly why should women bother about or seek certificates /permissions/licenses either from the society or males?


In all species, if we observe as a matter of evolutionary biology. Both the sexes not only copulate but also cooperate and do not think themselves as competitors. Each have certain roles, they may different but in no way superior or inferior or less important.

In a way if whole of humanity honestly evaluates, all human beings of both sexes had their initial boarding and lodging in a women’s womb before emerging as living creatures into the world.

This unique vital role of creation cannot be carried on by any male. So like this there are many vital roles every woman plays in her life.

All stupid Tamil serials and movies are obsessed with and portray certain predetermined, traditional roles for women but jump to justify modified continuation of such roles when it is beneficial to the male species. I do not want to get into the specifics of any of these.

Having said all these, unfortunately, in many cases, it is the women themselves who play the spoil sport to other women; probably it is because it is difficult to unwind several centuries of prescribed and piously followed behavioral patterns.
Here are some of my write ups







4] MORALITY

We must all remember that life has no permanent taboos or trends.








Saturday, April 4, 2009

Androcentric






                                                                 












                                                                      Androcentric


Mother writhed in pain

Wriggled in strain:

I was born to cheers


And uncorking of beers.



Still in bed my mother was fixed

To me father's name was suffixed;

All my actions like my mother's emotion

Worked only with his sanction.

I was wed with pomp and band

Sat on my dad's lap and switched over to husband;


I, the man's tensile shadow exist in tacit ways


Stretching back in morn's slanting rays,

Extant still at noon

Like a shrunken gnomon

Stretching back in evening light

To disappear freely at night.

When I got and reared my son

It was real great fun;

All my functions and actions

Survived without reactions and reciprocations.

Now old and without smooth skin

And around me without any kith or kin

And with unusual fears

And unnoticed tears

Am I forlorn? Or free to be alone?

How do I know without dad, husband, brother or son.

WOMEN OF INDIA

                                       


                                 WOMEN OF INDIA
I see you always adjusting your sarees and bangles,
Always adjusting your activities and attitudes,
Attitudes, beliefs and behaviour,
Behaviour to conform and cater to ,
Cater to the duties and demands,
Demands of everyone,
Everyone's fuss and fancies,
Fancies of greatness and goodness,
Goodness towards husband and humanity,
Humanity's incorrigible inequality,
Inequality that jails,
Jails womankind,
Kind of luring,
Luring by man and his mania,
Mania to nail or neglect,
Neglect your occupations and operations,
Operations to procreate and provide,
Provide to satisfy everyone and quench,
Quench without rest and reciprocation,
Reciprocation of sobriety and service,
Serving with tranquility and tolerance,
Tolerance even towards unloving users,
Users of vulgarity and violence,
Violence to wreck the well-being of women;
Women's xenodochy,
Xenodochy towards all, and yielding,
Yielding to all the society's zigzag perversions,
Zigzagging your life and zeroing your life's enjoyments.
Women of India you continue to adjust,
Without bothering if it is just.