Every individual human being is a package by itself with a
unique physical frame, psychological perspective, inherited/injected emotions,
if we believe a life force or soul or whatever we wish to call it which has to
blossom and experience life in its own with all its pleasures and pains which
no one else can experience but at best be spectator with willingly or
unwillingly.
Unfortunately what most parents do is trying to live vicariously
through their children their own aspirations or a life which they wanted but
could not without realizing their children have a life of their own.
So, strictly speaking parenting after donating a sperm and
leasing a womb and initially taking care of the physical well being of the
Child is all about weaving meaningful and mutually respectable relationships
psychologically factoring in many socio-cultural changes and the generational
differences. All of these are easily said than done because the emotional bonds
and the innate parental expectations will mostly cloud many things and project
only our interests, intentions prompted by our notions of their [our
children’s] well being.
Wiser parenting, in my personal opinion is involving without
interfering, motivating with manipulating, allowing independent and
interdependent individual growth to unleash its own melodies rather than
orchestrating to our tunes.
Impersonal Universal self [with whatever nomenclature - God,
Soul, Divinity etc- we want to believe in or disbelieve in it totally] which
operates through each body-mind organism will take care of the appropriate
harmony.
Probably our role is restricted to inculcating humane values and attitudes based on that so that there
is a socio-cultural harmony in living as a species.
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