1. I would like to broach this
subject, which is hidden away through hypocrisies, taboos and morality.
2. However, before I proceed
further I would like to appreciate your boldness and openness to discuss such
subject in our society.
3. I would like to make
certain general observations as to why none of us are able to address this
topic adequately at all without some sort of uneasiness or hypocrisy or bias or
all of these and many more irrelevant inhibitions.
4. What are all the mistakes that all of us commit that ensure that status
quo of puerile projections, putrefied perspectives and petrified perceptions on
this topic.
5. Some taboos are tirelessly
tugged in through traditions and reinforced with religious righteousness.
6. Such taboos move from innocent compliance to ignorant reverence to
irrational veneration.
7. Then, they gradually and helplessly hang as pendulums of moral standards
swinging between logically fallacies and illogical fantasies leading to phobias
[morbid fears] and philias [obsessive likings].
8. Any society which refuses to come out of the cocoon of all its religiously
sanctioned traditions and rituals- whatever be the aura of greatness around
them or the good intentions and practical utility as well in some case at the
time of their initial or original evolution - cannot deal with the constantly changing and metamorphosing natural
evolutionary trends of life.
9. At least educated people
must refrain from looking for ancient scriptural justifications either as references
to vindicate or reject or explain issues, problems, ideas in the present
context.
10. Before we proceed on any
topic we need to take into account certain inevitable laws of nature which as
facts of life need to be repeated like breath whenever we deal with any issue.
11. They may be briefly
classified as:-
A] Variety is not only the spice
of life but the very source and necessity of living;
B] Every aspect [physical, psychological, emotional, social, spiritual
etc] of every life [I mean living
creature] has multiple dimensions and
each dimension may have a multitude of dynamics inherent as well as capable
of influencing the surroundings and generating its own context, or impacted by
external influences and changes in contexts or situation to adopt harmoniously
with the evolutionary trends in all spheres;
C] Besides all these, they also operate with varying degrees of
intensities at different times;
D] Most importantly irrespective
of whether one can observe these, perceive these or accept these, all these are
inter-related and inter-connected and often inter-dependent as well in ways
which need not always be decipherable to the logical and intellectual perceptions
and interpretations because human perceptions by themselves are inherently
fallible in many aspects.
E]
So, we must tread very carefully while evaluating or
judging anyone or anything by avoiding these things. While exploring the facts we must desist getting distracted from the
following major traps:-
Mutilating the facts,
Analyzing them with preconceived notions or prejudices,
Generalizing the particular and particularizing the general,
Approaching facts with unloving criticism or uncritical love,
Evaluating facts with our pet isms or philosophies,
Resorting to statistical justifications,
Analyzing them with preconceived notions or prejudices,
Generalizing the particular and particularizing the general,
Approaching facts with unloving criticism or uncritical love,
Evaluating facts with our pet isms or philosophies,
Resorting to statistical justifications,
Unleashing unworkable utopia,
Mask them with logical fallacies,
Bury them in pleasant jargons, and
Give historical justifications.
Mask them with logical fallacies,
Bury them in pleasant jargons, and
Give historical justifications.
F] We must most importantly desist
from extrapolating any belief, doctrine, edict, ideology, ism etc while
evaluating anything.
12. Having observed all these when we discuss sex we must close the door , I mean figuratively, to
all the things which have only secondary importance because only then we can have
clarity about what is sex?
13. Primary it is a natural physical aspect of all living
species. However, in human beings it has to take into consideration civilized
and humane aspects as well as refinement to harmoniously co- exist as social
creatures with certain reasonable self restraints.
14. The above statement may sound over simplistic or overbearingly sermonizing
but in reality it is too complex and involves a whole gamut of feelings from
mere satisfaction of uncontrolled lust to expression of very nice and sophisticated
love.
15] It may probably bring into
focus my favorite quote from William James, “In the end nothing less than the
whole of everything can be the truth of anything at all”.
16] These are all the complexities which render what has to be simple
delight into a dilemma.
17] One need not fix its importance too simplistically like Henry Miller when
he said, “Sex
is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant”.
18] Or one
need not glorify it as some supra human feeling that needs a socially and
religiously sanctified anointment with some paraphernalia.
19] First,
most Indian parents need to be told that even in applied science subjects there
is hardly any actual practical training. So, sex education definitely will not
have practical experiments, it is just sex education and not sex training.
20] So, definitely
the children, nowadays above 6 years-as the urge may surge at any time, must be
slowly taught about various aspects of sex purely as a very important aspect of
life.
21] Sex
crept into the realm of morality very late in human history.
22] The
following links will elaborate on various aspects referred to in the above write
up. They are not mere words secreted as verbal diarrhea or opinions peddled to
convince or to judge or justify anything as right or wrong but to enable one to
take some balanced view of things with undiluted facts and reality.
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