Refrain of the poetry
of life and relationships.
Life is
universal energy manifested through various vibrations.
Every
vibration of every action or reaction or situation is based on relationship
i.e. how we relate to/with other persons and things and every relationship is
based on reciprocation.
I feel
in the ultimate analysis everything is about how we relate with others, with
things, with ideologies, with various identities, with the whole environment
etc that is going to determine our role and relevance in the world and in our
own life.
The
poetry of life and relationship in general has some inherently important,
interesting and inevitable refrain. They are broadly as given below and
therefore during the course of this write up they may be repeated often:-
1. That
everyone and everything is interconnected, inter related and interdependent in at least
some aspects and with varying degrees of intensity.
2.
Everything must be evaluated based on contextual relevance and contribution to
life as a whole [which implies the whole physical environment as well as
psychological and social environment].
3.
Every aspect of life has its own intrinsic and inherent attributes/merits which
must be smoothly aligned with life and its myriad relationships through proper
attitudes.
It is preferable to immerse any topic or subject matter, primarily and basically with its intrinsic elements/components/aspects/attributes intact, into a cauldron which has a mixture of all these- knowledge based analysis, limited perception based on frames of reference and scales of observation, skepticism , criticism, intellectual scrutiny, compassionate emotionalism, humane socialism, rational thinking, contextual relevance [ which includes too many components] , traditions, practical viability, psychological comfort, aesthetic sensitivity, scientific scrutiny etc and churn the cauldron without clinging on to any particular restrictive social, cultural or political or religious identity.
This process inevitably will bring out lot of outputs. We can exercise our freedom and sometimes select and choose some of the outputs. Sometimes the outputs will draw us.
Sometimes
away from all or any of our intended searches and seeking, outside the circle
of these known paradigms, almost tangentially serendipity will drag us to an
oasis of serene clarity.
At all costs the intrinsic attributes must be the predominant factor so that whatever is thrown into the cauldron and however it is churned, the ultimate output must include those attributes so that evaluation is not distorted or desperately doctored to fit into any predefined and expected outcome.
So what pans out ultimately depends on various factors and aspects some of which are explainable within the ken of logical and rational thinking but some are beyond these.
We can also observe uneasily
how the human intellect polished by a rare faculty [compared to other species]
of conscious awareness, capacity to think, store the knowledge, retrieve it for
reference etc, is mostly, unwilling to take the risk of accepting the uncertain;
the intellectually undecipherable and the inexplicable outcomes, even if such
acceptance is branded, extolled and promoted as virtues of humility or modesty.
All said and done life has to
be enjoyed through living and relationships have to be experienced in the churning
process of life. We cannot mask them with any mumbo- jumbo or avoid them
through any other means, imaginations, dreams etc however well packaged or
marketed or sanctified they may be.
What is
happening to relationships now?
Unfortunately,
to use the commercial jargon, there is a paradigm shift in viewing relationship
by some people of the present generation.
They
compartmentalize relationship into different categories. They categorize
relationship on a graph as useful, usable, allowing to be used and
proportionately their different relationships get disturbed, degraded and
destroyed. The more and more they allow themselves to be used for something by
someone then it can gradually lead to depression and can at times even become deadly.
They
think if betrayal can benefit why not give a kick to gratitude. They have no
qualms about placing selfish personal comforts and gratifications over
everything else.
That’s
why relationships are researched with more emphasis on the prefixes and/or
suffixes that are attached to them like marital relationship, professional
relationship, family relationship, emotional relationship, intellectual
relationship etc.
These
prefixes /suffixes indicate certain specific situations/contexts and certain
elements /aspects/factors which predominate in a relationship. They do not
define the totality of a relationship. For example in a professional
relationship one may not deal only with purely professional /official matter
one will also be concerned about the personal welfare or circumstances either
sad or happy one of the other with whom one is professionally engaged.
Similarly by emotional relationship it does not mean just any particular
emotion but also all other factors that form part of the relationship.
Relationships
are not nets meant to get entangled but great networks of connectivity to catch
completeness and gain from totality of everything because all are
interconnected, inter related and interdependent in at least some aspects and with
varying degrees of intensity.
But all
relationships irrespective of the prefixes and suffixes they carry are based on
certain time tested universal principles and certain humane values, it is these
values which are the many facets that give the shine to relationships.
Living with
certain humane values in our day to day life is worthier than any other great achievement.
We do not need any expertise or special qualification or sanctions to practice
these values. For example sentiments of caring and sharing, if not towards all,
at least towards people related to us and whom we come across in life is very important
because the impact of such values and principles are too tangible, stark and
stinging at times.
Even
when we are aware of all the components of relationships we cannot either make
collages or collations and deal with relationship but as mentioned earlier life
carries on its constant churning process through various aspects and
unfortunately we are aware of only some aspects because of our selective frames
of references and all other limitations.
So we
must strive to live by certain positive values that we may have inherited and/or
acquired and also try our best to bequeath the same to our children.
Very
often people take the route of blaming the circumstances becomes an easy excuse
and say because of various sufferings, problems, frustrations, failures etc
they could not lead a life with certain positive values. Similarly
some people who become a little prosperous in their life either in power, pelf
or position, they let everything
disappear under their super imposing ego which gets so inflated that they are
clouded by a false sense of immortality to external things quiet oblivious of
the mortal frame which houses such ego.
What no
one realizes is that we are all after all we have a mortal frame made of
biochemical organisms which are bound to decay and die one day and even that
like our birth is, in most cases, not chosen by us, but happens all the same.
Reality
is harsh and humbling in many ways. All of us always do what we can, what we
want to and what we are destined to do. At times one or some of these things
predominate over the rest. But irrespective of any of these three i.e. what we
can, want to and destined to do, the platform from which we perform them are
our inherent attributes and our attitudes.
Unless
these two are tuned properly the frequency at which we may encounter life will
be jarring and make us realize things the very harsh way.
So, living with certain humane values at all times preferably
with everyone is the best reciprocation we can make to the other souls.
On attitude
ATTITUDE CALENDAR
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