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Saturday, May 20, 2017

Advice on advice

Some advice on advice

                          Some advice on advice


“If you can distinguish between good advice and bad advice, then you don’t need advice”.

I have followed one great advice and that is not to follow any advice or any adviser.

It has a corollary in Fox Law: “To decide not to decide is a decision. To fail to decide is a failure”.

I do not want to lose the prerogative to experiment and experience life in my own way through my own stupidities.

However, at the same time when wisdom gained through previous experience by enlightened great souls is available ready made it would be unwise to overlook it or not use it as Isaac Newton says, “If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of Giants.”

But excessive blind following of the beaten tracks may not enable us to generate or create new avenues or worse still may not even make us see other healthy pastures around.

We need to strike a balance and cautiously choose to get influenced or be indifferent or ignore.

Both proliferation of advices as well as conscious avoidance of them emanate more or less from the same sources.

This ambivalent position viz à viz advices is more so in a society like our present time with excess of communication and nexus of newer horizons.

We are a society ever willing to choose and swing between adopting
anarchy for expediency but
binding belief for benefit;
compromising for convenience but
desisting out of sheer  unfulfilled deep rooted desires;
encouraging everyone else to be broad minded but
fending off faith disturbing findings;
generous in advices for others but
hypocritically hiding oneself  behind healthy public views and filthy private practices;
instigating others not to get insulated in ideologies but
jilt anything that disturbs one’s own ideological  insulation ;
kindle kindness in others but
leave even loved ones in lurch;
mock at lack of motivation but
negate any participation through nuanced excuses;
object to preaching by others but
preaching others constantly;
questioning the reasons and relevance for everything but
requiring unquestionable acceptance of one’s own reasons;
savoring scandals and sensational news about others with selective  amnesia but 
tacitly toe one’s own scandalous activities ;
unleash unloving criticism on others' ambitions but
vilely  venerate with uncritical love one’s own ambitions;
wantonly and wisely ignore one’s own grave mistakes but
x-ray into others’ minor short comings;
yoking others to share one’s burdens but
zapping them in good times.

Advices present themselves in black and white but with a grey area of uncertainty where we must not linger on too long.

Aiding to accept or Advancing ambivalence;
Developing decision making or Deepening the dilemma;

Vital validation or Valueless verbal jargon;

Interference and intrusion or Instructive and interesting input;

Caring confidence booster enabling to choose or Carefree comment and criticism;

Educative, empowering and enlightening engagement or Empty expressions ensconced in hypocrisy and jealousy.

All these remind me of George Bernard Shaw’s famous observation:-

"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world.
The unreasonable man adapts the world to himself.
All progress depends upon the unreasonable man”.

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