Parental Love

Life is best ensconced only in the warmth of parental love 

Father's Day a few years back someone asked me to write a 500 word article.

Whether it is Mother's Day or Father's Day, parenting has a lot of nice things and offers many lessons.

Any relationship we may choose to evaluate or expect aspects like trust, reciprocation, gratitude, understanding and multitude of other compatibility aspects and trade-offs.

However, when it is the parental relationship, none of those are expected and that is the very beauty of this unique relationship where most things are present, taken for granted and most importantly many sublime factors are on offer like unqualified affection, care and love.

Best part is till children grow up it is mostly one way traffic.

This is perhaps the reason why our tradition has placed duty bound reverence in this order Matha, Pitha, Guru, Daivam. [Mother, Father, Teacher and God] 

Parenting involves too many things with too much of involvement.

Many of which may be contradictions, blatant manifestations of hypocrisy etc.

Still, they all work together with too many strong ,personal , interpersonal emotions like care, concern, some amount of possessiveness, obsessive protectionism, sentimentalism, indescribable love which does not seek reciprocation; being and wanting to be physically and mentally available; wanting and willing to eagerly participate in the growth and evolution of the children etc. 

All of these can be realized only when one is or becomes a parent.

However, the following advice brings some sanity to otherwise too involved parenting.

"When you parent, it’s crucial you realize you aren’t raising a ‘mini me’ but a spirit throbbing with its own Signtaure- Dr. Shefali Tsabary.

This is nothing but what JK used to say as allowing the inward flowering.

Parenting very often does not know to differentiate between involvement and intrusion.

All said and done life is best ensconced only in the warmth of parental love which can be taken for granted at any circumstance.

People whose parents are no more alive, when they think of them, many fond memories cascade down the spine and fine feelings gush up the spine and both together flood the heart and choke the throat.

We all need to relish with love the relationship of our parents for whatever they did or did not or could not do and as parents let us do whatever we can to our children with love.

Education, Parents, Literacy, Society etc

Education, especially formal education what are we supposed to do about it?

The problem is not very simple for us to over simplify and over generalize and offer comments or opinions because it involves lot of aspects of life which we cannot afford to gamble with or not actively plan.

Only thing that is bad is the extent and degree of emphasis on certain aspects to the exclusion of the rest.

In the recent past I have come across articles, mostly, manifesting extreme positions, one denouncing all that go with all types, forms and levels of formal education along with all its concomitant parental and peer group pulls, pressures, perks etc

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/jun/09/aspirational-parents-children-elite?CMP=share_btn_fb

And another deploring the lack of enthusiasm and emphasis towards such important pursuit like formal education and the ensuing deprivation which can lead to depression and more delinquents as indicated in this article

http://publishersweekly.com/pw/by-topic/columns-and-blogs/soapbox/article/66489-searching-for-a-few-good-ideas.html

http://contentwriteups.blogspot.in/2015/05/literacy.html

So, youth who are actively gobbling up materials on the net are psychologically made to swing like a pendulum between these two extremes.

While most of us like to portray ourselves with a crowd criticizing standing on very high pedestal public opinions with catchy slogans we also clandestinely nurture a hypocritical following of the very things we criticize and condemn. In short we have a very healthy [acceptable] public view and filthy private action.

I infer most of the problems in perception are entangled around our lack of clarity about what we want to get out of whatever is called as education or whatever we pursue in the name of education.

http://contentwriteups.blogspot.in/2015/04/education-what-it-is.html

There are few things that elders and experts fail to follow and understand like for example clarity of understanding and quick grasping of the essence of any issue/subject/project/problem come about through involvement, impact and influence of various factors, formal education, acquired knowledge, sharp intellect, keen observation, interest, involvement and chronologically gained experience being some of the major factors.

The beauty is different people get a combination of these capacities at different times, I mean stages of life. For some people it happens when they are just toddlers; for some in their teens; for some in mid 30s; for some when they are around the fifties etc.

Another major malady that confuses clarity of perception is the hoard of standard existing theories which are thrust on any avid seeker of knowledge or learner. For example let us take the very subject of ' learning methods/processes etc' you see texts about study of cognition, child psychology, communication etc to start with.

Whereas, if anyone thinks of learning process it must start and involve talking about factors like curiosity, observation, imitation, listening, doubting, questioning, meddling, imagination, dreaming, creating, attention, initiating thinking processes, exploring through all the senses etc.

These links also may be of use or relevance to the subject in the article which has involved the role of parents as well.

http://contentwriteups.blogspot.in/2013/10/why-all-of-us-have-tendency-to-compare.html

http://contentwriteups.blogspot.in/2015/05/hypocrisy.html

http://contentwriteups.blogspot.in/2015/05/parenting-from-various-perspectives.html

http://contentwriteups.blogspot.in/2015/05/life-unending-puzzle-lessons-of-life.html

http://contentwriteups.blogspot.in/2009/04/everything-and-everyone.html

http://contentwriteups.blogspot.in/2009/04/every-age.html

Parenting

My reaction to the FB post below.

Parenting involves too many things with too much of involvement. Many of which are contradictions, blatant manifestations of hypocrisy etc. Still, they all work together with too many strong ,personal , interpersonal emotions like care, concern, some amount of possessiveness, obsessive protectionism, sentimentalism, indescribable love which does not seek reciprocation, being and wanting to be physically and mentally available , wanting and willing to eagerly participate in the growth and evolution of the children etc. All of these can be realized only when one is a parent.

However, the following advice brings some sanity to otherwise too involved parenting. " When you parent, it’s crucial you realize you aren’t raising a ‘mini me’ but a spirit throbbing with its own Signtaure"- Dr. Shefali Tsabary. This is nothing but what JK used to say as 'allowing the inward flowering'.

Parenting very often does not know to differentiate between involvement and intrusion.

All said and done life is best ensconced only in the warmth of parental love which can be taken for granted at any circumstance.

When people whose parents are no more alive think of them fond memories cascade down the spine and fine feelings gush up the spine and both together flood the heart and choke the throat. We all need to relish with love the relationship of our parents for whatever they did or did not or could not do and as parents let us do whatever we can to our children with love.

​http://contentwriteups.blogspot.in/2014/01/parenting-and-youth.html

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=11374377&ref=NZH_FBpage​