Life is best ensconced only in the
warmth of parental love
Father's Day a few years back someone
asked me to write a 500 word article.
Whether it is Mother's Day or Father's
Day, parenting has a lot of nice things and offers many lessons.
Any relationship we may choose to
evaluate or expect aspects like trust, reciprocation, gratitude, understanding
and multitude of other compatibility aspects and trade-offs.
However, when it is the parental
relationship, none of those are expected and that is the very beauty of this
unique relationship where most things are present, taken for granted and most
importantly many sublime factors are on offer like unqualified affection, care
and love.
Best part is till children grow up it is
mostly one way traffic.
This is perhaps the reason why our
tradition has placed duty bound reverence in this order Matha, Pitha, Guru,
Daivam. [Mother, Father, Teacher and God]
Parenting involves too many things with
too much of involvement.
Many of which may be contradictions,
blatant manifestations of hypocrisy etc.
Still, they all work together with too
many strong ,personal , interpersonal emotions like care, concern, some amount
of possessiveness, obsessive protectionism, sentimentalism, indescribable love
which does not seek reciprocation; being and wanting to be physically and
mentally available; wanting and willing to eagerly participate in the growth
and evolution of the children etc.
All of these can be realized only when
one is or becomes a parent.
However, the following advice brings
some sanity to otherwise too involved parenting.
"When you parent, it’s crucial you
realize you aren’t raising a ‘mini me’ but a spirit throbbing with its own
Signtaure- Dr. Shefali Tsabary.
This is nothing but what JK used to say
as allowing the inward flowering.
Parenting very often does not know to
differentiate between involvement and intrusion.
All said and done life is best ensconced only in the
warmth of parental love which can be taken for granted at any
circumstance.
People
whose parents are no more alive, when they think of them, many fond memories
cascade down the spine and fine feelings gush up the spine and both together
flood the heart and choke the throat.
We all need to relish with love the
relationship of our parents for whatever they did or did not or could not do
and as parents let us do whatever we can to our children with love.
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