Judging and evaluating

Many of us have this inherent weakness while judging persons and evaluating issues and rushing to conclusions.

I wish certain words that refer to some thoughts, ideas, and actions reverberate in our consciousness so that when we comment on or judge anyone or anything or any issue or ascribe motives and intentions [which are often our guesswork or presumptions] we don’t falter.

The words being:-

•        Contextual relevance,

•        Nuances of the situation or issue,

•        Intrinsic aspects or merits of the action,

•        Rational approach,

•        Avoidance  of hyper emotional  reactions 

[Entrenched biases and ideological prejudices may be excused as exceptions to these in certain matters of taste in art or preferences of food].

Using one off incidence, single activity, a particular situation, a single goof up, one failure, one slip of the tongue etc to over generalize, to jump to conclusion and to resort to judge the overall character and credentials of a person based on them is wrong. Whereas, if there are signs of consistent manifestation of bad attitude and poor perspective in the way one relates with others, issues and things, then one can evaluate and pass judgments.

Just because a particular top player has performed badly in one encounter /match, even if it is vital one that does not make that person misfit to talk about the game forever.

A single fight or disagreement on a single issue with a spouse does not make one a bad life partner. [Hope it is not interpreted as advocating multiple and regular fights]